Friday, February 03, 2012

Foster Adoption: Sometimes a Blessing in Disguise

By Charlotte Harrod

When I told my kids that I would be operating for an adoption agency, pretty much right away the concerns came like rapid fire. My younger young children asked questions like "Where do the babies come from?" "Do you get to pick them out?" and "Mom, are we going to adopt a infant?" Then my older young children asked extra involved concerns like "How does adoption function?" "Why would a household pick to adopt?" and "Why would somebody ever contemplate putting their youngster for adoption in the initial place?"

The most startling question came from my 16-year-old daughter, "Mom, what would you do if I ever became pregnant?" Well, after telling her that she wasn't going to grow to be pregnant till she finished college, had a career and was happily married, the reality set in.

I have observed young women, my daughter's age walk bravely by way of the doors of the agency 8 months pregnant. In order to answer her question, I had the intention of taking my mom hat off and putting my social worker hat on, but I located myself wearing both. We talked about what it was like to have a kid and the responsibilities that came along with that. Yes, we did speak about how cute babies are and the overwhelming adore a mother feels for her child, but we also talked about the restless nights and the times when almost everything in my life had to bet set aside for the sake of my youngsters.

We talked about how it was nice for me to be in a position to stay at property when she and her siblings were tiny and how unexpected changes in my life led me to return to school and take on the challenges of a operating single-mom

I asked my daughter what her dreams had been. If she saw herself graduating from college, getting a career, and most importantly to her, getting the ability to come and go as she pleases and purchase her own clothes and make-up?! I asked her to consider about how these dreams could be altered if she were responsible for a kid 24-hours-a-day, 7-days-a-week.

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